Finding your happiness.
We each have our own definition of happiness. First, define what fulfills your human needs.
Socrates coined the term, “Know thyself,” and for many, it is not an easy thing to do.
Anthony Robbins, who introduced The Six Human Needs, teaches us that these needs are vital in creating a fulfilling life at all levels.
1. Certainty: “The need for safety, security, comfort, order, consistency, control. This primal level includes staying safe in our pursuits and in our relationships.
2. Variety: “The need for uncertainty, diversity, challenge, change, surprise, adventure.”
Unpredictability helps us expand on becoming who we are.
3. Significance: “The need for meaning, validation, feeling needed, honored, wanted, special.” This helps us create self identity.
4. Love and Connection: “The need for connection, intimacy and shared love with others.”
We each have a need to love, be loved and belong.
5. Growth: “The need for physical, emotional and spiritual development.” Every living thing
must grow for survival.
6. Contribution: “The need to give, care, protect beyond ourselves, to serve others and the good of all.” Living our life’s purpose brings value to others.
I am obsessed with human behavior! I can remember being one year old, sitting in a red harness, riding on my father’s back. We were walking on the streets of Philadelphia, on a sunny autumn day, and I vividly remember strangers on the sidewalk who faced me, making strange faces, smiling and waving at me. I suppose they were aiming for a response of some sort, probably a smile back.
What is the reasoning behind our actions and why go against what ultimately delivers us
happiness? It can be a challenging process in learning the paths we need (yes, it is a need) to pursue, in order to create balance in our world to gain self fulfillment. In doing so, these actions will provide the key to unlocking inner passions, which will generate happiness, allowing us to be our best self and flourish in life, giving the world our special gifts that each and every one of us has.
I begin my day with a 10 minute meditation. This is vital to me in mapping out my “to do” list. I choose a quiet place at home where I am able to be still and think about the actions I will take to accomplish my pursuits. If it a business I am working on, (currently helping launch an up and coming children’s book), I must set daily deadlines in order to be on target to launch. I have a planner, you know the old-fashioned type where you put pen to paper, where I incorporate sticky notes of steps needed to take to get tasks done. This is where I also jot down phone calls to be made, personal errands and any appointments to be met. I have found organization and sticktuitiveness to be the key to success. It may sound a bit daunting but once you get into a routine, I promise you that you will perform this daily ritual without thought and find value in doing so. Another vital daily action, as you may have guessed, is physical exercise. Yes, we must incorporate exercise not only stay healthy and strong but, to elevate those wonderful endorphins which get the creative juices flowing and further clear our minds. If you are not already doing so, I suggest you chose an activity you love! Exercise comes in all forms…. walking, running, hiking, biking, swimming, skating, stair climbing, tennis, etc. Let's face it, choosing an activity you love will make it fun and ultimately get you to do it more often than not.